I’ve been blogging for nearly three months now, (though to be honest it feels like so much longer!) In that time I’ve poured over countless travel blogs and read three copies of Wanderlust magazine cover to cover. The world is full of travel inspiration if you look for it. Every day I have a new idea, a new place I simply must see, a city I have to explore, a country I have to add to my bucket list. It is simultaneously awesome and well, rubbish.
Travel is a priority to me, it screams cursing through my blood constantly asking where’s the next destination? This constant whisper that’s hard to quieten.
One of the main take away’s I have from reading other blogs’ advice to those starting out is don’t compare yourself. Everyone is at a different stage in their journey, you just concentrate on you. And this is life advice too, for women, for everyone, ignore the ideals set by the media.
But it’s hard.
It’s hard not to compare you blog to someone else’s in this internet dominated world where everyone fights to put the best aspects of their lives out there for everyone to see. And it’s just hard not to compare your life to someone else’s. It’s hard to search Skyscanner for flights but know that your bank account is going to say no. That you work a 9-5 job and can’t just leave and spend two months exploring somewhere whilst you are reading blog entries by writers who are travelling full time. It’s hard to remember sometimes that it is a privilege to even be able to travel at all. We live in a world where comparison is the norm, the media screams that women should be thinner, look a certain way, act a certain way. Comparison is ingrained in us and sometimes it’s hard to break the mould.
But we should break the mould.
I don’t want to live someone else’s life, I want to do it my way and sometimes that may take longer or I may end up taking a different route and that’s ok. And it’s ok if you work a 9-5 job and can’t take every single holiday you want to. The world is vast and it will still be waiting when you are ready or have managed to save up for that dream trip. I have just booked a trip to Canada for next year. I couldn’t afford to do it this year because apparently banks prefer if you pay your mortgage rather than spend it on plane tickets – who knew? But next year is ok, I still get to go and it gives me time to save so I can do all the extras and excursions I want to. I guess I just needed to write this to remind myself to stop comparing myself to other people – both travel bloggers & people I know – and to remind you that you shouldn’t either. Everyone has different responsibilities and demands on their time and money and even if you are attempting to make travel a priority, it may only result in a few weekend breaks in a year and that’s just fine. Life is made up of experiences and memories, enjoy the ones you make and don’t spend your life wishing you were somewhere else instead. Enjoy the sunshine and the cherry blossoms that herald the start of Spring. Getting home from work and hitting the sofa with a good book and a cup of tea. Laughs with loved ones.
Just enjoy living.